It is the most selfless act to help those in need and assist the needs of people in any way in the event that life throws them off. If it is not in extreme circumstances, help people in smaller circumstances also counts as altruism because you’d be spending time to gain nothing but making a difference to the people you help.
However, if your generosity is being abused and your generous heart is ignored is crucial that you get involved in changing it.
How can you tell you’re being victimized? Here are five signs to help you recognize the signs that people abuse you. or treat you like an unwelcome guest.
You Just Can’t Deny People:
If you’re asked for some help from a family member, or someone you know, you’re certain to answer. It could be mowing the lawn or taking care of the kids for a short time, cooking some food, or purchasing gifts for them, and you feel that you can’t refuse the requests of your loved ones.
It could be due to your routine of helping, but rather because of people who constantly ask for favors from you and never hearing your explanations for why you shouldn’t. You might not even give them the reason.
Being all-encompassing is not a good idea. You only get heard when you express your worries, so you must learn to say no when you can’t afford the task at hand.
It’s fine to assist those who need help once in a while. It is more than fine, but it shouldn’t be done at the expense of your peace of mind.
People Hold You For Granted:
You agreed to a request because you knew how badly they required it. You had the time to help them to show a bit of kindness. You’re becoming an unwelcome guest If people keep coming back each day, asking the same thing, which naturally leads to them assigning the task.
It’s not obvious. You might think they’re busy once more and require your assistance; However, If you take a closer look, you will see that they benefit from your thoughtful gesture. You become the go-to person whenever they require something, even as simple as buying snacks from the grocery store.
You must set limits on the things you’d accept.
Otherwise, those with no sense of accountability and worry about others will keep calling you about matters that aren’t your concern.
They Contact You Only When They Need You:
It is the most obvious and most typical evidence of someone being a doormat. People are increasingly complaining about their family and friends who used to be close to calling just in times of crisis.
People contact you only for help when they need a favor or if they need help with something that can be solved by the knowledge you can provide. The world has turned into an unfriendly place, and it isn’t easy to find people willing to help you through the thick and in between.
We have to identify and eliminate those who are cruel and selfish. If they only reach out to you to make a request and do not contact you for any other reason, they are clearly employing you for their benefit. There is no point in catering to the needs of such people.
You Are Rarely Appreciated:
When you perform a deed out of love and concern for someone else, you are expected to be acknowledged for it. The favors are reciprocated, and, in the event that they are not, gestures of gratitude are exchanged. If you do not experience any of these and you are requested for more favors each time, it’s an indication that they are working with you to take advantage of your generosity.
Some people are very indifferent at times, separating themselves from the health and well-being of other people. It is your obligation to let them connect or completely disconnect. Requesting favors for others without repaying them with, at the very least, gratitude is not allowed to happen in your daily life.
It’s not just a way to make you appear foolish but also a waste of valuable time as well as company. Do not befriend those who don’t know how to greet you.
You Don’t Feel Excellent:
After all the help and time-saving, you feel guilty if you don’t get acknowledged with appreciation or gratitude. You want to help others out and help them whenever they require help; however, when you don’t find anyone to assist you in times of need that you need, and you feel guilty about it.
This is the most gratifying indicator. If your friend’s heart broke, You offered them the support they needed, and you offered them a hug, and, when it was your worst day, they weren’t to be seen. It’s only that they took the time to appreciate you and now are using them only when they really need to.
Friendships or any other kind of relationship do not operate unevenly. It’s an important step to know who is there for you and who only shows up when things are going well. Being treated like an unwelcome guest could be a sign of low self-esteem. Don’t let you be a victim of this.
Be strong and learn to say no, because the burden of the world’s problems should not be placed on your shoulders.