Do you prefer to love or the desire to please? First, let’s discuss the differences between lust and love. They certainly ignite the fire in you, and you cannot breathe the excitement that keeps you awake at midnight; however, is that the real thing? Lust? Love? Or perhaps, just one of the most basic emotions?
Perhaps it’s the result of lust? Perhaps, for me, the first clue would have come from our time together, when the man said, “You don’t have to like the other person to want them.” Perhaps, later on, he mentioned that he was searching for something better and someone who is more marriageable according to his perception.
A romantic relationship that is based on love is fantastic if you are aware of the kind of relationship you’re getting into and keep your eyes wide to enjoy a romantic time in the sun. There is no one to accuse you of having specific sexual desires and needs. There is no one to be able to blame you for that.
It’s all aspect of human nature, after all. However, what’s most important is to not fool yourself. Here are 21 indications that your actions are signs of lust not love.
You’re dressed to impress.You’re always at your best in your eyebrows. Your eyebrows are pampered, you’re always dressed to impress, while your Brazilian is perfect. Whether you’re a man or woman, the important thing is to pay extra attention to your appearance when you interact with them.
In a relationship founded on more than superficial things, the two of you would not care whether your hair was not perfect in the future, as your connection is greater than everything else that is beyond.
Signs it’s lust not love:
1. An absence of meaningful conversations
“Love is the bond that’s caught the flames. It’s peaceful understanding, mutual trust sharing, and forgiveness. It’s loyalty in both good and bad moments. It accepts less than perfect and allows for human flaws.” Ann Landers
If you’re in love and I’m talking about well and thoroughly in love, then you’re at ease with your spouse and everything they do. That means that you’re happy to discuss most topics with them. The person you share your life with is your friend, but not love, in which case friendship and the deep conversations that go along with it aren’t there. Conversations that make up your issues and your hopes, goals, and entire life are not present in your relationships.
2. They resemble sin.
In a relationship built only on love, the person you are with is a representation of Adonis or Aphrodite. You’re always left thinking that God has bestowed an abundance of beauty onto this person. It is hard not to think of their looks and think they are perfect when the reality is that they’re far from that.
In love, you can see past the imperfections of someone towards the beauty and goodness inside. There is a deep passion; however, it’s not just based on appearance and rather, it comes by the love you have in common.
3. The time you spend is spent doing a tumble.
This is purely from my own experience. However, I don’t make the claim that it is exclusive to me or my past experience. You are welcome to share your experiences with it. For example, you decide to go to a movie with your partner. Instead of picking one at the nearest cinema, you decide to watch an oldie in your own home.
The movie sounds adorable and romantic, does it not? So, yes, you will decide to watch the entire film. This is because, in actual you may not care about the film, and you’ll be spending the majority of your time hitting the homerun. That’s precisely the way it is in a relationship built on lust, not love.
It is a common place to spend all of your time engaging in the sexual pleasure of sex. Sex is indeed the perfect way to express your love for each other however it’s not the only method.
4. You don’t have a connection with your emotions.
Your communication is slowed. You don’t express your emotions or talk about them in a way that he/she does. It’s not a way to start discussions on how he/she can affect your feelings or the reverse. In truth, emotions don’t get into discussion other than if it’s about sexual arousal.
If you can feel a connection with one another emotionally, You find comfort in the silence. There’s no need to be tense by lying on your backs and looking into each other’s eyes until four in the morning (oh, do I believe that, it’s quite a novelty when you first begin to fall in romance).
But the reality is that silences can be awkward, and the way you communicate is solely based on sexual desire and what you liked the most ought to be a glowing signal that says it’s pure love.
5. Your memories are based on the bedroom by itself.
Every time you think about the times you’ve spent together with someone else, it’s not about the film you watched, meals you shared or the strolls you took. Instead, your thoughts are immediately directed towards the thrilling moments you shared in each of your company…only. The memories of those moments alone are etched in your memory every time you think of them or them.
6. There are no plans for the future.
You talk about how great it is. The amount you love to be with each other. Your desire to be with the other. What do you hope to get from your next “date”. However, one thing you’ve not thought of is to spend the rest of your life with them.
If the idea of children, marriage, joint accounts, sleepless nights with diapers to change, or trips was taken in tandem with other similar thoughts are on your mind at any time as you think of them, then be sure that this may be more than pure love. If the future doesn’t come to mind at all and you are not sure what the character of your relationship should not be laid out for you.