Depraved relationships can be messy. You end up questioning your very existence and your standards for love. You can’t help but wonder about what you’ve done to deserve the hell that you’ve just been through. What did you do to deserve that boyfriend who mistreated you and emotionally manipulated you? What you don’t realize is that you probably brought this havoc upon yourself with your bad decisions and misguided intentions.
You can save yourself the hassles of heartache by improving your standards and changing the way you go about choosing a potential mate. Girls often make the mistake of going into relationships with wrong expectations, and so they end up hurting themselves in the process when their expectations aren’t met. Don’t fall victim to your own wrong decisions and start approaching relationships better.
Always be sure to avoid these 9 sure-fire ways to attract the wrong guy:
1. You Prioritize Look Over Personality
The one way to be blindsided into getting yourself into a toxic relationship is to allow yourself to prioritize looks over personalities. Scrutinizes won’t be everything 10 years down the line. If you’re looking to be in a serious long-term relationship with someone, then you should start looking into peoples’ personalities more than their looks. looks will fade away eventually, but personalities can only shine brighter with age. It would help if you always chose to be with someone who makes you happy over someone easy on the eyes.
2. Choosing Someone Who Has the Same Personality as Your Toxic Ex
You have a type. We understand that. But it would not be very reasonable for you to keep on getting into a relationship with people who have the same personality type and expect different results every time. Switch up your tastes and raise your standards. Reevaluate the qualities you want in a partner, and see if they are worth sustaining a relationship.
3. You Prefer The Loud One Over The Quiet One
Often, you’ll be drawn to the loud and eloquent partner with who you can seemingly strike a conversation at any given moment. You may end up overlooking quiet, quiet introverts who have just as much love to give you in the process. Be wary. The loud, talkative ones don’t necessarily have the best personalities and might bring toxicity to your relationships. There are perfectly great potential life partners waiting in the wings who don’t have the courage to strike up a conversation. Don’t overlook them and test the waters a little bit. You never know what gems you may end up finding if you put in a little effort.
4. Letting Popularity Be a Factor in Determining Worth
Social status is incredibly essential to you, and you only want to be linked with the most popular people. That can spell disaster for you in the future because sometimes, the most popular people don’t necessarily make the best life partners. Yes, you can be dating someone with elite social status, but if you don’t connect emotionally, then what’s the point? You’ll only end up disappointing yourself in the long run, and you won’t have anyone else to blame but yourself.
5. You Consider That You Can Change the Depraved Boys
Depraved boys are just bad boys. Plain and simple. There is little to no possibility of changing them to be better unless they make the conscious decision to change themselves. It would help if you stopped seeing relationships with people as projects you can continue working on. You can’t force a fish to climb a tree, and you’ll only come up on the losing end with high expectations like those. Learn to be a better judge of character at the start and save yourself any potential headaches and heartbreaks in the future.
6. Choosing Style Over Substance
Sure. He could be decked out in the latest threads from brands like Armani, Gucci, and Prada. But if he still has a crappy personality, no amount of high-end brands will be able to hide it. A person’s personality will always end up shining through whatever piece of clothing they have on.
7. You Lower Your Standards Out Of Desperation To Be In A Relationship
You’ve been out of a relationship for so long, and everywhere you look, your friends’ love lives are just blooming. You’re not getting any younger and you’re starting to feel the social pressures of getting in a relationship that you end up lowering your standards for the sake of being in a relationship. don’t blame anyone else when you’re feeling miserable in the end.
8. He’s Rude To Others, But You Consider He’ll Be Nice to You
Always be observant of how a person treats other people. These are blatant indications of how they are as people, and you would never want to be on the receiving end of someone terrible to others. Chances are, if a person is a terrible person when interacting with others, he or she will be the same towards you.
9. You Wrongly Equate Age With Maturity
Aged age is not an indication of maturity. You can measure maturity with intelligence, empathy, and eloquence. Don’t just get with an older man/woman just because you’re looking for something a little more mature. This is an impractical standard that you have set for yourself, and you will only be left disappointed if things don’t work out in the end.
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