7 Steps to Take If You Feel Stuck in Life
Even when you are able to move through the worst of circumstances, life can throw curveballs at you. It doesn’t matter if you are a working parent in middle age, retired, or somewhere else, it is common to feel stuck in your life.
I am familiar with the feeling of low energy and lack of motivation.
When it comes to writer’s block, I struggle with my own feelings of being stuck. Sometimes the words flow like hot lava from an active volcano. Other times, I feel completely dormant in my motivation and willingness to think.
What tools or techniques could you use in those moments when you can’t seem to get out of the hole that you feel trapped in?
In discussing ways to overcome the feeling of “being stuck” in life, I want to emphasize that this feeling is very normal. As we travel this path to happiness, we all experience it at one time or another.
Many people experience this loss of joy and encouragement, and it can cause them to feel isolated from those who love them the most. This is my first step to beating that feeling of being stuck in your life.
1. Are you ready to throw in the towel? You are invited to join the Club
It’s important to realize that feeling stuck can be a common and natural feeling, regardless of whether it is in a professional relationship, personal life, or scholarly pursuit.
It is important to realize that life can be hard, there will be times when you feel like you aren’t getting enough fuel to keep going.
Even though I am writing this post, I have to admit that I felt stuck this morning when I woke up to go to work. If this sounds familiar, let me tell you.
Monday morning. Your alarm goes off. You reluctantly hit the snooze button and exhale with exhaustion. Now, the weekend is over and the week ahead of you is upon you.
Before you decide to head in, you pause and consider whether it is worth the effort. Then you finally give up and dress for the day. You feel stuck and tired as you drag yourself to work each morning.
This feeling is normal and healthy.
Regardless of the obstacles that you face, these thoughts are normal and common.
You can have that simple but crucial realization, and you’ll be on your way to breaking the cycle of feeling stuck in your pursuit of happiness.
Now, I’m ready to move on to the next step in my journey to get rid of that feeling.
2. The Source
No matter your situation in life, the struggle is something that can be overcome.
Everybody will face adversity in their lives at one point or another.
How to handle struggles is a key factor in controlling your emotions and temperament. This will help you regain confidence in yourself and break free from the mental chains you have created.
“We act like wind-up toys bumping into the walls repeatedly, never realizing that there may be an opening door just to our left or right,”
Susan David is a Harvard Medical School psychologist. She wrote in her book Emotional Agility. Get Unstuck. Embrace Change. Thrive in Work and Your Life.
Susan basically said that we could get stuck in situations and keep going with the same methods that got us there, rather than looking for a way forward.
Life is full of challenges. It is normal to feel stuck.
I have learned one thing from going to therapy to help me deal with my anxiety, motivation, and self-destructive tendencies. You must first determine the root cause before you can make any positive changes.
When you feel stuck or in a rut, you can trace your past and find out what brought you to this place.
Understanding the reasons behind your apathy and how it manifests internally will help you make positive changes and move towards a more productive life.
3. Spend your time wisely
It’s easy to fall into negative routines and unhealthy habits, which can lead to a lull in life.
This feeling is normal, and you can work to find the root cause.
I often hear the excuse, “I don’t have the time to do [fill in the blank],” that allows people to avoid responsibility or take necessary actions and instead continue on a path that leads to unproductive behavior.
It is crucial to evaluate your time use. As you would for your finances, create a time budget.
You don’t have to set a time budget for everything you want to do in a given week. It’s also important to have a budget that accurately reflects your week-to-week habits.
It might be surprising to see how much time you’re spending in the present moment. This is especially true if you’ve been binging on Netflix, consuming too much social media, or working yourself into a coma.
Set aside time each day for your work, your sleep, or for other activities. This will help you to plan for those times when you feel like you have had enough.
Time, our most valuable asset, is lost without a second thought. You will be stuck for much longer than you anticipated.
A more structured schedule will help you be more productive and less likely to feel stuck.
This article will show you how to better budget your time: The Ultimate Guide To Prioritizing Your Life And Work.
4. Talk to the Mirror
Do you not find it fascinating that we are able to give solid advice to friends, family members, and co-workers without hesitation or issue? But when it comes time to make our own decisions, we feel paralyzed, unable to make a decision, and
A strategy I love to use is talking to the Mirror. I attempt to get out of my inner monologue and perspective to give myself the kind of advice I can readily offer a friend or family member who is dealing with their own issues.
Sometimes, when I get out of my head and feel stuck, I can see clearly and determine if my perspective is realistic and healthy.
It can be more productive to examine your life from an outsider’s perspective. This will allow you to see your future trajectory and help you to get rid of the feeling of being stuck.
You can increase your chances of success in reflecting on your life’s journey by committing to this exercise. This exercise can help you discover more about yourself and what is causing you to feel stuck in your current life.
It can be beneficial to mentally step out of your comfort zone and see things from a different perspective. It can be very helpful to step back from your usual outlook.
According to the authors Kross & Ayduk, in their study Focusing on the Future From Afar:
“Prior research suggests that self-distancing improves adaptive self-reflection regarding negative past events.”
It can be easy to get stuck and feel defeated. It is important to examine your behavior and determine if you are contributing to the feeling of being stuck.
You need to be able to love yourself and show compassion. This is a great example of the concept of “talking to your mirror.” People are quick to care for others, but they can neglect their own needs.
Dr. Kristin Neff is a University of Texas psychology professor who came to the conclusion that.
Self-compassion is about treating yourself the same way you would treat friends and family.
It is important to treat others as you would want to be treated. It is also important to practice self-compassion. You should have positive self-talk and not only see yourself through a negative perspective.
This is something that all of us could improve on. My own life is often my worst critic. In order to get rid of this stuck feeling, you need to think outside your usual thinking. To find creative solutions, take a hard look at yourself in the Mirror.
5. Distractions can be a good thing
My creative mind is where I spend most of my time. I create original music at home and write for my blog. It’s an effective way for me to get out of my daily grind and find a positive outlet.
When you feel stuck in one area of your life for a while, try to move on and focus your attention on another area that is more energy-giving.
I find it helpful to revisit old tracks or write new songs when I have been working on one song for a long time.
Everybody has a daily routine that gets boring and leaves us feeling frustrated. You can break the cycle by changing things up and looking for new distractions.
I enjoy creating music and writing new songs, but I also love physical activities like basketball, racquetball, or disc golf, as well as taking a walk around the neighborhood. These activities can help me clear my mind, break me free from the mental block that can sometimes hold me captive, and take away my motivation to continue working towards a long-term goal or pursuit.
If your situation is not improving, or you feel stuck in your work or life, then a side quest may be the best way to move you towards your goals.
It’s like an academic trying to solve an equation that seems impossible. Sometimes you need to look away and zoom in. Sometimes I get too focused on the trees and miss the forest.
Distracting your attention with something new can help you feel motivated to revisit the things that once drained your energy and revive your passion.
6. Get More Productivity!
In keeping with the idea of finding new distractions for your mind, it is important to consider how you can use your time productively when you are feeling stuck.
There have been seasons in my life when I just wanted to drive home from work and sit on the couch watching Netflix. This was a bad pattern that left me with little to no balance in my life.
I feel trapped at work and can’t continue the 40+ hour work week that I have grown to be so used to. I try to find productive ways to spend my time that give me something to enjoy in the evenings.
Sometimes it is as easy as spending an hour with my daughter in her bedroom and letting go of all of the worries and stresses of work for a while.
7 Steps to Take When You Feel Stuck in Your Life
Sometimes I find projects that I can do at home, such as hiding wires behind the TV and building a side table for the bedroom. It doesn’t take me long to realize that I feel happier and more prepared for the ups and downs of life when I find better ways to spend my time.
Using my evenings after work to be productive helps me avoid feeling apathetic or lazy and prevents me from falling into that stuck feeling.
I am not suggesting that you go crazy filling every minute of your day until your hair falls out. Do not be the person who takes on this job to the extreme.
It is possible to be productive in a moderate amount of time by keeping your mind busy outside the workplace. You can also develop better habits in your spare time, which will make it easier to feel like you can reach your goals and achieve new levels of motivation and success.
7. Looking Back and Looking Forward
Last words of encouragement: I want to remind you that change is slow in life. It would be so easy to say, “1, 2, 3,!” and feel great.
Like all things worth working towards, getting out of funk within your inner perspective takes energy, time, and support from friends or family.
You can still break free from your stuck feeling, even if you seem to be struggling for a while. You can keep working hard and try to be more positive about your situation.
I usually give myself 30-60 days to implement a new strategy in my life approach. Next, take a moment to assess my progress and/or lack thereof. It’s not just about doing. It’s also about the analysis of your actions before, during, and after a change takes root in your life.
Reflecting on your past and present will help you gain valuable insights into your life.
All of us move at different speeds through life. We will all experience struggles and times when we want to quit. These feelings are normal and common.
You’re a strong, intelligent person. I know this because you didn’t want to get stuck in this funk.
Don’t let the world down, keep your head up!
These steps will help you examine your behavior and make necessary changes to have a happier life. Instead of feeling trapped, you’ll feel empowered to become the best version of yourself.