What if you were always able to tell when someone was lying to you? Wouldn’t that be like having a kind of superpower? But detecting lies in a conversation has never been easy. You can challenge what someone says, you can doubt it, but it can’t possibly be proven right every single time. How can you know someone’s lying to you and can you really make sure without having to rely on unfounded judgment and assumptions? There are no words as such that may act as verbal cues and help one accurately catch a lie.
Here are some statements that should serve as a red flag:
1. That Pretty Much it
2. How can you prove that
One would only say something like “you can’t prove that” or “try to prove it” or “how can you prove that” if they know what they’re saying in either entirely or partially untrue. They are aware that there’s proof against which makes them suspicious about having the lies spotted. If someone is 100% honest, they do not think of evidence or leaving a trail behind because they wouldn’t have any suspicion of being proven false. A liar knows there’s proof but the person on the receiving end merely has not discovered it as yet to able to prove their accusation or doubt right. [Also Read: 5 Things Your Relationship Should Never Become]
3. Why would I do that ?
The only time someone would say something like that is when they know they’re lying and there’s a fear of knowing the other person knows it too, and perhaps they ask just to give themselves the surety that the lies they’re telling are being read as the truth. Having done something wrong then hiding it makes them want to be satisfied with the certainty that no one else knows about it, hence the question “you know I wouldn’t do that right?” or “why would I?”. Ending a statement with a question is a stupid move on the liar’s part because honest people don’t ask such questions, they just respond with simple, direct denials. [Also Read: 5 Signs You Have A Cheating Girlfriend And What You Can Do About It]
4. Are you saying I’m lying
Lying is risky business and liars are aware of that. To divert attention from their own lies, the liar will pull shrewd moves in an attempt to turn the tables onto the accuser and make them look like the wrong person for validly accusing them. People who are wrong are incredibly quick to engage in aggressive self-defense. [Also Read: 5 Signs That your Boo is Wasting your Time]
It puts the accuser in a position to immediately justify their accusation, and this tactic works precisely according to the liar’s plan; it buys him/her time to either come up with a story or add to an already made-up story to make it sound legitimate and credible. The simple way of dealing with this kind of a counterattack is saying “yes, I am accusing you” “yes and I know I’m accusing you of the right reasons” or “yes I am accusing you and you know why.” This way, they will know they can’t play you, and they should quit trying to do so. [Also Read: 10 Silly Lies That Most Men Would Never Admit To]
5. “I don’t remember
Saying something along the lines of “I don’t remember doing such a thing,” “I don’t think I did that” creates confusion in a situation. It can make the accuser doubt their own memory and accuracy. “I don’t remember” is an easier way out because the person who is lying will look at least partially innocent because even if they’re proven wrong later, they didn’t exactly claim to have not done a thing, they only said they didn’t remember doing it.