Have you ever come across a cheating man? What justification has he given you for his actions?
’There is always some madness in love, but there is also always some reason in madness.”
I’m a man and I’ve been cheated on by four different women in my life. But even after that, I’ve seen more of my female friends get hurt by bad men. So this article is going to focus on why men cheat, a women’s version will follow soon.
There is no justification for cheating and I’m not here to support guys who have inflicted their partners with a terrible time. You never understand why people cheat; I mean I know that there are a lot of alluring things and transient temptations that can surely mess things up in your head. However, we all know how this cheating game ends. It ends in resentment and constant self-loathing.
If you have someone in your life who loves you with all her heart and you give it up all away for a little lack of excitement in the relationship which might go away in the imminent future, then you’re a five-year-old child who can’t control his bladder and just pees in his pants. Simply put, you are not mature enough to be in a committed relationship with a compassionate person who has made sacrifices for you and for this bond you share.
Even If your relationship is not working out, there’s always the easy way out, you can break up and you can have all the time to figure all the things out in your disturbed mind. There is no alibi for this heinous social crime that hurts everyone involved.
Here are some of the reasons why your ex-boyfriend opted to cheat rather than upholding the values of honesty. You will also find some good guys in there, caught up in bad habits and you need to keep in mind that no matter what the circumstances which lead to such situations, in the end, we are responsible for what we end up doing.
1. Womanizers and Drop On Saints
To understand this, you need to let go of the concept that, there’s always good in people.’ Sure there is, but believing in such things will end up with you as bait to these con artists who will do anything they have to do to get you. They are quite similar to sociopaths and they are so adept in their craft that they will have sure moves planned to make a fool out of you. They have done this so many times to a lot of women that they will have no remorse or feeling of regret in moving from woman to woman and ruining lives.
On occasions, there’s that guy who has been good all his life but he wants to try something new because he is tired of doing everything right. That is a different case and if he atones for his sins, then he deserves a chance. What he did is absolutely wrong but his scenario is a lot more different than some womanizers.
2. The Insecure bunch
People have these little fragile insecurities which make them brittle. They can break at any point in the relationship. People push others away just because they think that they are not good enough for someone. They think that if they came close to that person, it will only end in heartache. So instead of committing, they are caught up in a dilemma and make silly mistakes.
They think if they open up and tell all of their dirty little secrets and an agonizing past, it will only drive you away.
They cheat with someone at work who has been showing them some sort of affection. Unfortunately, these things happen and our tainted past has a lot to do with this.
Self-hatred makes us do horrible things and you need to remember the possibility in your head that there is someone out there who will never leave you and leave the pieces of your heart all scattered on the floor.
3. They don’t realize the worth of what they have
All our lives, we have been taken for granted for something petty. We have always done so much more than we can. Some men don’t realize that this kind of love could be eternal and a lot more valuable than hooking up with a hot blonde in the office for a single night.
She might not even be looking for something serious and you end up losing the one thing that is head over heels in love with you. Why sacrifice the elixir of youth for the taste of a temporary luxury? It’s ineffable!
4. Fragile Creatures
Men are mentally weak and all that muscular morphology cannot conceal that inner softness and delicacy. They are more prone to make a mistake than women. Women are more dedicated to the relationship than men. They cheat too but the percentage is much smaller as compared to men.
A guy who cannot be strong for the both of you; do you need such a man?
5. They lack the courage to be Upfront
Guys are scared that they will end up hurting the one person they have shared a lot with if they tell you that they don’t feel the same way. In my opinion, that’s just stupid. Disclose me, what will hurt her more? Your cowardice or your dishonesty? The answer to that is quite blatant. Guys make up all of these excuses in their heads and form justifications to keep their hearts at peace but it’s all a bunch of cockamamie.
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