Rapper Fabolous came out with a song a few years ago called “Situationship.” A situationship is where a man gets the benefits of being in a committed relationship BUT is not actually in a committed relationship. Ladies listen, (insert deep sigh), DO NOT GIVE A MAN ANY RELATIONSHIP BENEFITS IF HE CANNOT COMMIT TO YOU! I had to type all that caps so you all can truly hear me. Any man that genuinely wants you will have zero problems being committed to you. It is that simple. And forgoing commitment is one of the most significant signs he is going to waste your time.
2. HE ONLY HITS YOU UP WHEN HE WANTS
Any man that is sufficiently interested in a woman, is going to want and know how to communicate with her effectively. If, when you text him, he doesn’t reply till hours later or even days, let that man go. Don’t also respond when he DECIDES to hit you back finally! Sure, he could legit be busy, but it takes seconds to reply to a text to convey that. If you know his phone is always glued to his hand, baby boy gets no passes for excuses!
3. HE ALWAYS WANTS TO COME OVER BUT NEVER WANTS TO TAKE YOU OUT
If he is always trying to “Netflix and chill” with you instead of saying, “Hey, you hungry? Let’s go to dinner”, then he isn’t the one, sis. Any man that is wanting to get to know a woman and build with her will most certainly want to take you out. If he doesn’t have some handicap that makes him embarrassed to be around people, then don’t pursue anything further with him.
4. HE NEVER TAKES INTO ACCOUNT YOUR FEELINGS
When you find yourself continually having to explain to him how specific actions he does make you feel and he has excuses for his actions rather than an apology and pledge to do better, he’s not the one for you. He should value your feelings and make you feel comfortable in communicating them to him. If you’re telling him how you feel and then he has nothing but rebuttals for why you shouldn’t feel how you feel, show him to the door.
5. YOUR INTUITION IS TELLING YOU TO LET HIM GO
Our intuition is NEVER wrong. God gave us women the great power of knowing when something is off. You will most certainly know when you are wasting your time with a guy. Do not, and I repeat DO NOT ignore your intuition. We have one for a reason, and if we listen to it more often, it will save us from A LOT of heartbreak and soaked pillows.
Ladies, I am not saying anything that you do not already know. If that man is playing games with your heart, the girl, let him go!