2021 is almost here!
A new year is starting for all of us and it is always good for you and your partner to sit back and reflect on the past year you have spent together. If you are single, then this is the time where you should rethink and evaluate your relationships and give yourself the rule book you will abide by for future relationships.Not that you have to make relationships according to the rule book, who follows their resolutions anyway, but it is always good to remind yourself of the lessons you have learned throughout the year, good and bad.
So, here is a small list that I will surely follow with my partner. There are a thousand things more that I could add to the list but I believe, for me, these would be the top 10! Appreciate.
1. Celebrate accomplishments, big and small
I realised in the past year that we spent too much time either longing for something we don’t have or bickering about what we had. In this losing and wanting more, we somewhere forgot to make our present worth living. So even if its as small as putting together your bed, celebrate. Impress small memories with joy and celebration so that you and your partner can only see celebration in your past when you look back.
2. Surprise one another
Giving each other surprises sparks up your relationship. Your partner feels essential and worth the effort. Even if it is as small as preparing breakfast for them on the weekend, do it! No matter how big or small, surprises are surprises. Even a kiss when you least expect it.
3. You are equals
Learn that no matter what role you play in the relationship, you both are equal. Love and effort is put in from both the sides equally, maybe a little differently but always equally. So treat each other exactly the way you expect to be treated by them.
4. Don’t be petty
Let go of petty issues. Small yet constant fights ruin the relationship and your bond. Don’t let that happen. Let go of small issues, like leaving the towel on the bed. Design your point politely in case the issue has become too essential and there is nothing that can be done to avoid it.
5. Remember to say thank you
Appreciate. We often assume our partner knows how thankful we are, thus, we don’t feel the necessity to appreciate it or thank them for it. Even if you are saying this a millionth time, still say it to them. No one dislikes appreciation so don’t hold back, thank each other more and more.
6. Respect each other’s space and time
It is completely human for the two of you to sometimes want your own time. Work on that, leave room for yourself and your partner where you can have your space. In fact, many researches prove that having your own time every day actually makes you miss your partner and makes you want to appreciate their presence even more.
7. Offer solutions, not criticism
Unnecessary criticism spells breakup! Save the taunts and criticism and try and understand your partner’s point of view. Be constructive and keep your voice low-pitched. Don’t offend your partner, make them feel comfortable. Talk it out, don’t scream and don hurt each other’s egos.
8. Travel together
Travel forces couples to rely on one another in unpredictable ways. It will also broaden your worldview and the way you value your relationship.
Don’t work on them all at once but do that you agree with or simply, find opportunities to squeeze, hug, rub, nuzzle, cuddle, or hold your partner throughout the day. Design every day count!
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Do you have anything to add to our 2021 List? Add your items in the comments below and I’ll add them to the article. Have a blessed 2021!