There is just an abundance of overwhelming feelings and emotions that can overtake you whenever you find yourself in a happy and healthy relationship with someone you love. And since everything seems to be going so well, you could risk lulling yourself into a false sense of security. Yes, you would want to assume that every happy relationship that you’re in is actually built to last.
But what happens if you’re proven wrong? What if you’re just being led on to nowhere in particular? You don’t want to end up falling in love with someone who isn’t interested in going all the way with you. You want to be with someone who makes you feel secure about the future of your relationship. So how do you know if your partner isn’t just stringing you along for a temporary ride until someone better comes along?
That’s not necessarily a very easy question to answer especially if you’re virtually inexperienced in having these kinds of relationships. Yes, you could feel like everything is going fine in your romance – but then someone better comes along, and then you get replaced just as easily. And you wouldn’t want to even think about the pain that an experience like that would bring you.
When getting into a relationship with someone, you have to make sure that you are smart about it. You don’t want to rush into falling in love with someone even when you don’t have all of the facts yet. You have to make sure that you get to know a person; to find out what their intentions with you are.
You can’t be too trusting of everyone in this world. There are just too many selfish people out there who will only use you for their own convenience; and then leave you high and dry once they’re through with you.
So be very vigilant. Hold an eye out for the following signs in your relationship. If you find that a lot of these actually apply to your partner, then it would be probably best to call them out on it. And if they are unwilling to come clean to you about what their intentions are, then you better just walk away from the relationship entirely.
You never deserve to be someone’s placeholder. You don’t deserve to be a backup plan. You don’t deserve to be a mere option. When you fall in love, you have to be that person’s priority. And anything less than that is unacceptable.
1. Your partner dodges all talks about the future.
Your partner doesn’t want to talk about the future because they don’t see a future with you. That’s just the truth. They don’t want you to think that you’re actually going to be around long enough to necessitate a discussion of a future that you could share together as a couple.
2. Your gut is telling you that you shouldn’t be trusting this person just yet.
Learn to trust your instincts. You have to remember that when you’re first falling in love with a person, you can compromise your own critical thinking by letting your emotions get the best of you. And that’s why you have to stay attuned with your subconscious.
3. Your partner doesn’t even try to integrate you into their life.
Your partner doesn’t even open up to you about their hobbies or their career. They don’t introduce you to friends or family. They are merely content with just coexisting right beside you without necessarily letting you all the way in.
4. You don’t find any clue of your existence on their social media pages.
You want the hard truth? They want to keep you a secret. They’re still making it seem like they’re available for dating. They don’t want other people to know that they’re in a committed relationship to you because they’re still open to seeing other people.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are. —Maxime Lagacé